Have you ever said, “I wish (fill in the blank).” “I hope I …..” “One day I’ll _________.”
While all of those things are nice thoughts, that’s all they are. Thoughts involve no action. If you want something badly enough, bust through whatever is holding you back (often fear of failure or rejection) and make that first step. A step, on the other hand… that’s action.
About 3 years ago, I had gone through two cars, both lemons and was on my way to my third. My aunt always talked about how she loved driving her car that was a manual transmission. I secretly always admired the fact that she was coordinated (and cool) enough to drive one. From the time I was around 23, each time I went car hunting, I thought about manual – but always ended up with an automatic. Self-doubt.
“You’ll never be able to get this thing all the way home.” “You’ll kill it 20 times, cause an accident and a traffic jam. You’ll be all over the news, be a complete embarrassment.” “You’ll get stuck on a hill, under compensate on the clutch and wind up eating someone’s bumper.”
All of these were possibilities. But I did one thing that most people don’t or won’t do. I asked for help. My cousin went with me to get that third car. A red, 2003 Mazda Protege 5. She took me to a parking lot a few miles away, spent about an hour with me going through the basics and… voilà!! Three years later, I stalled in traffic approximately 10 times. I rolled backward down 5-6 hills before learning how to work the clutch perfectly. I even …. blew the transmission. It’s true. But I did it. I made something happen that I’d wanted for 10+ years. Now it’s mine. And no matter how old my Bella gets (yes, that’s her name. No, she’s not named after the Twilight character.) – she’s my girl.
I’m well aware that taking thought and turning it into action involves the mind more than anything physical, but I think a particular law of physics applies here.
Newton’s First Law of Motion states that “An object at rest stays at rest and an object in motion stays in motion with the same speed and in the same direction unless acted upon by an unbalanced force.” Objects tend to “keep on doing what they’re doing.” In fact, it is the natural tendency of objects to resist changes in their state of motion.
So do SOMETHING. If you don’t think you can do it alone, ask for help! You’ll be surprised how happy people are to help you. Even if it doesn’t work, you’re moving. You’re taking action. Maybe that unbalanced force Newton spoke of will be enough of a force to push you in the right direction. You won’t know until you do (not try.)
“Do or do not. There is no try.” – Yoda